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You’re the one people count on.
The calm in chaos.
The high achiever, the caretaker, the go-to problem-solver.
From the outside, it looks like you’re doing great.
But inside?
This is what quiet burnout can look like.
And for many high-functioning adults, especially those with trauma histories, it’s incredibly common.
You might have learned early on that your value came from being helpful, successful, or “easy.” That emotional needs weren’t safe. That stability depended on staying calm, competent, and in control.
And while those coping strategies may have helped you survive, they often come at a cost:
Eventually, your body starts to tell the truth—even if your mind is still powering through.
As a trauma-informed therapist, I specialize in working with high-functioning individuals who are outwardly thriving but privately overwhelmed, anxious, or numb. My approach blends talk therapy, somatic work, and nervous system healing so that change happens not just cognitively—but physically and emotionally.
Together, we work to:
I offer both weekly therapy and private, half-day intensives for individuals who prefer deeper, focused work outside the traditional weekly model.
If you’ve been holding it all together for a long time and feel ready for something different—more sustainable, more honest, more whole—I invite you to reach out.
You don’t have to wait for a breakdown to begin healing.
You just have to stop pretending it’s all fine.
In a world that often glorifies overcommitment and self-sacrifice, setting boundaries can feel like an act of rebellion. Yet, boundaries are essential for maintaining emotional health, fostering meaningful relationships, and protecting your energy. Let’s explore why boundaries matter and how to set them effectively.
Boundaries are the limits we establish to protect our physical, emotional, and mental well-being. They define what is acceptable behavior from others and what is not. Boundaries aren’t about building walls but rather creating guidelines that nurture mutual respect and understanding.
When we fail to set boundaries, we may feel overwhelmed, resentful, or even burned out. By contrast, clear boundaries help us:
Do you often say “yes” when you want to say “no”? Do you feel drained after interacting with certain people? Here are some signs that you might need to strengthen your boundaries:
If these resonate, it’s time to prioritize boundary setting.
Boundary setting is a skill that takes time and practice, but the rewards are invaluable. By honoring your limits, you cultivate a life that aligns with your values and fosters genuine connections. Remember, saying “no” to what drains you is saying “yes” to what sustains you.
Take the first step today—identify one area where you need a boundary and commit to honoring it. Your peace is worth it.
Perfectionism can feel like a relentless pursuit of excellence, but underneath it often lies a deep fear of failure, rejection, or not being "good enough." One of the biggest challenges perfectionists face is setting and maintaining boundaries—especially when it comes to saying no, protecting their time, and prioritizing their well-being.
Perfectionists often tie their self-worth to how much they accomplish or how well they meet others’ expectations. This can lead to:
When these patterns persist, perfectionists can end up feeling resentful, exhausted, and overwhelmed.
Boundaries are an essential act of self-care. They communicate, “I respect myself enough to protect my time, energy, and emotional well-being.” However, for perfectionists, setting boundaries can feel like they’re letting someone down—or worse, failing.
But boundaries aren’t about rejection; they’re about self-respect. When we set clear limits, we create healthier relationships, reduce stress, and break free from the perfectionist trap of needing to prove our worth through overwork or over-giving.
Perfectionists often believe they must do everything flawlessly to be loved or accepted. But real connection comes from authenticity, not overperformance. When you set boundaries, you’re not just protecting your time—you’re reinforcing that you are already enough just as you are.
Letting go of perfectionism means embracing the idea that your worth isn’t tied to how much you do for others. And sometimes, the most powerful thing you can do is simply say, “No, I need to take care of myself.”
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